Clean and Appropriate Humor is More Than Just Not Cussing
Here I am at the Tallahassee Chamber of Commerce event. . .I’m hanging with the Capitol City bank logo at a party!
So I’ve been doing comedy for convention crowds – corporations and associations – for over 14 years now, and I keep getting asked about what is appropriate humor.
Soooo, I’m going to focus this series on appropriate humor: what is not appropriate, topics to stay away from, how to craft it, rules for using humor, why it fails and what to do when the humor doesn’t hit. This should take me well into 2012! Yeah, no more trying to figure out my blog topics. My first entry, today, will begin with. . . drum roll please. . . what is not appropriate humor for business events. I’ve got half a dozen things that are not appropriate. I’ll address a couple today, a couple later in the week, etc. . .you get the idea.
I started out doing comedy clubs and bar gigs. I realized it was time to stop doing bar gigs (clubs are still fun) when I walked into a bar gig 10 years ago, and the owner took one look at me and blurted out “you ain’t got any of them thinking jokes do ya? My jokes were not appropriate for his room. Time to move to a more appropriate venue. . . the convention market!
With that said, jokes for business groups (whether you’re a comedian or just want to sprinkle your talk with some funny) are a different animal, and you need to make sure your humor is appropriate. And sometimes, the reason a joke is NOT appropriate for the convention group may not be obvious. I did a show for 500 blind merchants once, and what’s the first thing as a comedian you want to say when you’re standing up in front of 500 blind people. “HEY, I’M NAKED.” Well, they didn’t want me to say that, and not for the reasons that you think – Most people think you shouldn’t say it because it brings up a ghastly visual for them – even if they can’t see me, there really are very few people you want to see naked. And some people may think you shouldn’t say it because it seems a little mean spirited. Actually they didn’t want me to say it because They’ve heard it all! The client said there is not one single blind joke you can tell or think up, that we have not heard. Don’t say it. Which meant even if I thought of the wittyiest, cleanest blind joke on the planet, it would not have been appropriate for this group. Sometimes the reason the joke is not appropriate is not apparently obvious.
First off, remember that corporate humor is more than just “taking the F word out.” You shouldn’t cuss EVER. I don’t even say the word “crap” because I don’t want to go there. You must at least do that. But also, in my opinion (which all of this is, by the way), I’d stay away from the three hot beds, Religion, politics & sex – pun intended, unless that’s what they hired you to speak on, and/or they know you incorporate those subjects. Even if you cover all sides of politics and you have fun with all of the religions on the planet, unless the group specifically hired you knowing that that’s what you’ll joke about, I’d stay away.
AND, even if it’s a group that you think you can get a little racier with, like “good ole boys, ” don’t. I did a show for contractors and it didn’t go well (I’ve had a lot of shows for contractors that DID go well. . this one just didn’t). Afterwards the president leaned over to me and said “these are contractors, you should’ve done some D__ jokes.” Ironically I was following a speaker who talked for an hour on how contractors need to change their image from good ole boys to professionals. I told the president that I don’t want to offend anyone in the room and if I bomb doing clean humor I can tell the client (and the agent who booked me) that it wasn’t a good match. If I kill (meaning rock the room) doing even a couple dirty jokes, but just one person complained about the humor, then I can’t defend myself.So be wary of doing jokes about sex, religion and politics in the corporate setting.
So watch the racey humor and you’ll be off to the races with some good jokes.
Jan
Writing Humor Means Paying Attention to Many Little Things. . .
And in continuing my blog about appropriate humor, remember that you should pay attention to when using humor is the industry climate. Be sensitive to jokes about what’s going on in the industry. For example, you may have heard that the meetings industry has taken a hit for having lavish meetings, so they are VERY concerned about their image. A few years ago you could joke about the lavishness of the meetings because it was funny. I used to joke about it by saying things like “I know your theme is XYZ (insert theme of meeting). You call it XYZ because you can’t get a tax write off by calling it the “drinking and golfing” convention. There’s not so much drinking and golfing going on right now, and even if there is, don’t go there as people will feel guilty about it. It’s very sensitive.
Also, be sensitive to the audience’s industry. I did a show for the staff of banking groups last year and I could joke a little about the mortgage crisis (“don’t we all miss the good ole days when you could get a loan by flashing your library card”). These were staff people, NOT bankers. If they were bankers, I wouldn’t have said that joke at all.So make sure you do a quick bit of research on the industry climate and do a quick check on what these people might really think is funny. . .before you write your funny.
Jan
Following Another Speaker
So occasionally I don’t just write about joke writing. . . here’s an article I wrote about the art of following someone. . .
Following Susan Boyle
So like the rest of the planet, I am a huge, huge fan of Susan Boyle – the unassuming woman who took to the stage on Britain’s Got Talent last week and literally blew away the judges, the audience, and now the Internet community. In fact, the only person who was probably not thrilled with her performance had to be the guy or gal who followed her. While she was knocking ‘em dead onstage, I’m guessing that person was getting nauseous backstage.
As a comedian who cut her teeth in comedy clubs before moving into the corporate and association arena, I’ve had to follow a few Susan Boyle-ish acts in my time. It’s scary. But we figure out how to follow crowd-pleasers because it’s a part of the gig. And the techniques we use to switch the audience over from THAT show to OUR show can be used by anyone else who finds themselves walking up to a microphone right behind a show-stopper. Whether you’re a speaker, a sales person or a CEO, you WILL find yourself having to follow a great act some day, so here’s some ammunition!
Make a reference between you and her. Some people will tell you NOT to mention the person before you, because you’re figuratively bringing that person back “on stage with you.” Maybe. But my experience has been that if the person is so awesome, they’re probably still on stage with you, anyway. Considering that, you need to segue from them to you by finding a way to reference them and include yourself. If I was following Ms. Boyle, I would’ve made a quick list of what the audience liked about her. . .her voice, her attitude, her song, her wowing the crowd. And then I’d look at what she and I do and don’t have in common. This would give me a great line to bridge to my act. . . ”Well, that’s nice, but that was the song I was going to sing… Now what?!” or, “I’m no longer concerned about winning this contest, I now just want to be her opening act!” Say something that acknowledges her talent but also brings you into the equation. Simply saying “let’s have a hand for So and So” is not a good reference because it doesn’t involve you.
I’ve had to follow many big name acts, most notably Michael Richards, Kramer from Seinfeld (pre-meltdown days). At that time, he was walking onstage to standing ovations before he even opened his mouth. When I came out, it was sort of like “who the heck is Jan McInnis?” Attention-wise, they were still back at Richards. So I had some fun with his character by complimenting it and making a connection to me. “Didn’t you all love him as Kramer on Seinfeld? He was so goofy. He reminded me of every blind date I’ve ever had.” It got a good laugh and offered the audience a way to focus on my act.
Say what the audience is thinking. In my book, Finding the Funny Fast, one of my tips to develop quick humor is to put yourself in your audience’s shoes and say what they are probably thinking. It’ll release tension and give you a nice transition. So what is one of the biggest things people were probably thinking when Susan Boyle’s follow-up act came out? If I were following Susan, I might’ve kicked off with ”I’m guessing right now, NOBODY on the planet wants to be me!” Aside from laughs, that line would probably get a little empathy, and more importantly, bring the audience on my side (they certainly didn’t want to follow her either!). . of course, then it’s up to me to shine. So make a quick quip about the audience’s thoughts, again, adding yourself in, and you’ll give yourself a leg up.
Run your own race. . . Be yourself. Don’t change your style to try to match the energy or the humor of whatever went before you. You have to be YOU. That’s why we like Susan. . .she is the real deal. You can bet she would have had that same performance regardless of what the act ahead of her did. I once followed a guy for a week at a comedy club who told me that he wanted my headlining job. . .and then he proceeded to get the audience riled up into a frenzy with dirty jokes and high-energy humor; in other words, pretty much everything I am not. At the end of the week, he came up to me very frustrated and said “I’ve thrown everything I have at them and you’re still able to follow me. . HOW???” I said “why don’t you just do your own thing and forget about ‘getting’ me.” And that’s my advice to you. Focus on what you do best; that, in turn, will allow you do well. If you’re good at what you do, the audience will like you and key in to what you’re doing. When I was featuring in clubs, I hardly ever blew the headliner away, but I still became a headliner myself because I did my thing and offered a great show; soon enough, the club owners saw it. I tried not to pay attention to how good or bad the other acts did. Remember you’re there for a reason, so take the pressure off yourself and just have fun. At the Punchline Comedy Club in Atlanta, over the doorway that leads from the green room to the stage, some comic has carved the words “make them come to you,” and that’s exactly what you need to do.
Be Nice. And as always, when making a comment about your predecessor, be nice. That sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many times people say something about the person they’re worried about and have it come out bitter. My joke about Michael Richards focused on his goofy character, not Richards. If I’d said Richards was goofy, I probably would’ve lost the crowd. If you don’t want to be funny, be SINCERELY flattering, or at least make a sincere comment, like the one I offered about wanting to be Susan’s opening act. Trying to get ahead by making others look bad almost always blows up in your face. And don’t put yourself down, either. Self-deprecating humor is a good way to make a quick joke, but not in this instance, since you’re already starting from a disadvantage.
There are, of course, many other techniques you can use to win the audience over and get them into you, but these will get you started. Use them well enough, and some day you’ll be so good you can pass along some advice to the poor guy following YOU.
Jan
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